Writing Can Be Murder

November 1, 2007

Critique partner and/or friend?

Filed under: Uncategorized — jenniferelbaum @ 10:32 am
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Got together with my crit partner Cyndi the other night. I’m pretty sure Panera’s lost money on us since we sat there for FOUR hours blathering on and on about writing.

Besides being crit partners (a term I use loosely since neither of us writes (or even reads) the genre of the other) I consider her to be a good friend.

After we were pretty much done discussing each other’s WIPs, Cyndi told me a hard truth about myself as a writer.  Not something I really wanted to hear (though I needed to). 

I don’t think it would be something I could accept from someone who was just a critique partner.  I would have blown it off (even though she was absolutely right). But because it came from my warm, caring, generous friend, I was able to accept it. (Not saying I liked it though, lol.)

 I’ve had a number of crit partners who I didn’t consider to be friends (which didn’t in any way detract from them being good crit partners).

Do you consider your crit partners to be friends?  Do you consider one relationship to be better for your writing than the other?



  1. I consider all my crit partners to be friends, but of course not all my friends are crit partners – nor would they make good ones.

    Comment by bgardner — November 2, 2007 @ 7:32 am

  2. BGardner- That’s hilarious.

    I think there has be some sort of connection between yourself and your critique partner on two levels. One being they like your writing, they can see the talent and they understand you. Because the worst thing you can do is let someone who hates your voice, your genre, critique your work. They will find fault with everything instead pointing out things you can work on,

    Two, if you have someone like that in your corner who you can cheer with, cry and moan with then the relationship can grow to friendship. Honestly, I haven’t found someone who was my friend first who I’d let look at my work and be able to trust their critique. That’s not to say I won’t let them proofread or that their opinion is lacking, but I’d think they wouldn’t be honest with me trying not to hurt my feelings.

    Comment by Melissa Blue — November 2, 2007 @ 1:23 pm

  3. Hmmm…Maybe it’s odd that I’ve had crit partners who I didn’t consider to be friends? I think that there are advantages to both.

    If someone is my friend, I can trust that they’ll be supportive (but they may end up being too “careful”).

    A crit partner who is not a friend, can usually be depended on for more direct feedback, but they may have another agenda.

    Neither situation is perfect.

    Comment by jenniferelbaum — November 2, 2007 @ 3:19 pm

  4. What a night, Jen! It’s those times spent with other writers who are also good friends that make my world go ’round!

    As for crit partners, I have met all of mine first as writers at writing-related events. But of the three serious partners I have had, I ended up great friends with all.

    I consider myself very lucky indeed.

    Comment by Cyndi — November 2, 2007 @ 9:25 pm

  5. very interesting, but I don’t agree with you

    Comment by Idetrorce — December 16, 2007 @ 2:41 am

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